Updated: Jan 14, 2020
People hate pain. People hate the idea of pain. I mean, who wants to suffer right? no one wants to feel uncomfortable if they don't have to. We constantly choose the easiest path as often as possible. So, people are constantly telling us to PUSH THROUGH THE PAIN. Sometimes it's sports, or relationships, or our jobs.
I want to share with you the correlation between pain tolerance and emotional health. If you think that pain and emotional health are unrelated, you are wrong. Have you ever heard of the phrase rock bottom? People say that unless you hit rock bottom you won't change. This is what I am talking about.
People won't change until it hurts too much to stay the same.
Perhaps a forsaken question is, what is pain? All we know is that we don't like it. I'm here to tell you pain is your best friend. I'm not saying you should be asking for more of it, but instead, use it for its intended purpose.
If you break your arm, how do you know it is broken? It Hurts. That's how you know. Pain simply is an indicator for us. It tells us that something has to change.
I'm here to tell you that we have to expand this past just our physical bodies. Have you ever met someone who kept getting into absolutely terrible relationships? Why would someone do that? Why would someone keep putting himself or herself into a situation that will have the same painful result?
Maybe you know someone who keeps getting into jobs that treat them extremely poorly, and every time they change jobs it ends up being the same. Why do you think that is?
We will subconsciously keep creating pain in an attempt to get us to look at what is wrong and to deal with it. It often is brokenness or emotional dysfunction that isn't dealt with. The path of healing can only start when we look at what's wrong and begin to address it. We have a built-in mechanism to get us to stop and look. It is called pain.
Creating these painful situations for ourselves and being aware that wherever we keep falling into patterns of pain is our ultimate tool for growth and healing.
I want to challenge you to look at your life, find the pattern and break free. I really believe you can do it, be honest with yourself and instead of asking "why does this keep happening to me," ask "what can I do about it."